As Parents With Allergic Youth…How Do We Relate To Life Experiences We Have Never Experienced?

Tip # 30’s Tips For Parents from Anaphylaxis Canada’s Youth Advisory Panel  at Why Risk It?
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“Ideally we would love to learn more about food allergies by meeting/speaking with older kids with food allergies and not always from our parents.”

I totally agree!

No matter what age you are…nothing feels better than to hear from someone, in or around the same age, tell you something about their life experiences that makes you feel less alone.

In fact, it is one of the main reasons for which I started writing this blog…I wanted to reach out to parents with children living with food allergies because I was living that life…feeling very alone.

As my boys with food allergies move into their teens, the above statement from allergic youth made me stop and think…my life experiences do not involve food allergies or eczema, therefore, how, in my boys’ eyes, can I relate?

I thought back to a few instances where my husband’s friends have discussed their life experiences with eczema and food allergies to my boys…

Growing up…a couple of my husband’s friends experienced severe eczema on parts of their bodies.  Michael had always looked up to them, however, after hearing them discuss their eczema related stories…they achieved a ‘pedestal status’.

I am forever grateful to them for sharing their life experiences with eczema from that time in their lives…it gave hope to Michael that he would someday ‘outgrow’ his eczema like them.

As Michael entered his early teens…that is just what happened.

When Michael was young, another one of my husband’s friends alerted me to his eczema-like reaction when he ate McIntosh apples…I put two and two together and realized that the same thing might be happening to Michael.

After explaining this friend’s experience with Michael, he switched to picking apples with gloves on. Over the years, he has also learned to limit his intake of apples…he, himself, has discovered a link between eating too many apples, oranges and cantelope…his skin becomes inflamed.

This same friend has a fish allergy…yet he loves to fish. In fact, my husband and he just came back from a 4 day fishing trip this past weekend. The fishing was phenomenal! His friend just makes sure he brings his own food to eat and is careful about handling the fish when he has reeled one in.

Learning from the life experiences of my husband’s friends with eczema and food allergies gave my boys role models…best of all, they gave them hope.

I like to think that working towards controlling my asthma through running, continues to encourage the boys to stay active in their lives. Both boys play hockey in the winter, Michael has just joined a gym and Matthew will be joining a swim team for the summer.

Asthma need not be an excuse for an inactive life.

Do your children with food allergies/eczema/asthma have role models to learn from their life experiences?

Are you a role model yourself?

P.S.  Chelsea Vineyard won Miss Teen Ottawa Worldshe is allergic to peanuts. She has chosen anaphylaxis as her platform in the hopes to raise allergy awareness.

“I also want to be a role model for children and show them that they can follow their dreams no matter no matter what life challenge they have.”

Chelsea was interviewed by Why Risk It? Click here for the full interview.

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