My youngest son, Matthew is in Grade 9…he has a peanut/tree nut allergy, eczema and asthma.
As a mother with two children with food allergies, eczema and asthma, I have always worried about how their challenges would affect their growth and development both physically and emotionally.
Many old feelings of guilt and thoughts of my boys’ living with food allergies resurfaced after Michael’s allergic reaction to lamb last Tuesday…I was not feeling like ‘mother of the year’! Click here for the link to the post.
Amazing how my ‘back pack of guilt’ can so easily be ‘brought back to life’.
Every now and then, a glimmer of hope shines through…eradicating any doubt I may have had regarding my boys sense of self….my ‘back pack of guilt’ is removed and gets placed back on the shelf.
I wanted to share one of those times with you. On Friday, Matthew brought home some of his work for me to review. I was blown away with one of his poems and writing. With Matthew’s blessing…I give you a poem he wrote titled, Reflection.
I asked for height
I was surrounded by tall kids
Thank you God for the opportunity
To rise to the challenge.
I asked God for no allergies
Asthma, and eczema
Peanuts and sports appear everywhere
Thank you for the chance to become
aware of my surroundings.
I asked for better skills in sports
I was given tougher opponents
Thank you for the drive to practice harder.
I asked for all the things I wanted
God gave me the things I needed
Things that would make me a better person.
You have no idea how much this poem means to me…I was literally brought to tears!
Barely recovering from the poem, Matthew handed me another piece of his work…more tears ensued.
The following is a sentence and closing statement taken from a paragraph he wrote:
“I was diagnosed with allergies in grade 3 and was disappointed but I had faith in my friends and family that they would understand and they did. My friends have always been supportive and understanding and I am grateful.”
“Dark times appear in everybodies life and you can hope that faith and trust are there to get you through those times.”
Life is full of challenges. In retrospect, I am ever so grateful for the challenges that have been presented to our family. For all the hardship that my boys have endured living with food allergies, eczema and asthma…they have survived. I believe their journey has given them the opportunity to acquire the skills to become young men ready to tackle more of life’s challenges.
Another silver lining.
The journey will continue for my boys whether I am around or not…my job continues to prepare them to live independently with a ‘side order’ of food allergies. Not an easy task…but then who said motherhood would be easy!. I wouldn’t trade it for the world!
Have you experienced a silver lining moment in your life with food allergies, eczema and/or asthma?